President Lyndon Johnson wrote this list down long before he became President. It’s a hell of a set of principles.
- Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing.
- Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you. Be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual.
- Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-going so that things do not ruffle you.
- Don’t be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you know it all.
- Cultivate the quality of being interesting so people will get something of value from their association with you.
- Study to get the “scratchy” elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
- Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off your grievances.
- Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
- Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
- Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine affection to you.
Here’s the inverted list, in case you need to also know what NOT to do:
- Why bother remembering names? They’re so labely.
- Make others uncomfortable so you can have more quality alone time. Be a stinky shoe that people would rather leave outside.
- Get FIRED UP at EVERYTHING.
- You know it all. The rest of them are so. friggin. stupid. Gosh.
- You know you’re interesting, so tell them exactly what’s on your mind (and don’t worry what’s on theirs, you’re more interesting)
- What doesn’t kill them makes them stronger, so if they can’t hang with you, they are WEAK.
- Engrave your grievances in stone. Lug them around with you. Grudges are good.
- You like them or you don’t, and if you don’t, it’s on them.
- Say it when you want to so it. Whatever “it” may be.
- Derive your spiritual strength from the support or weakness of others equally. Be merciless in what you dole out on your own terms.
Kind of messed up that I can think of people who live by each of these lists.
Let’s go team LBJ.