Self-Compassion > Self-Criticism

“You’re a beautiful girl,” the old man from her ancestral country said. She felt the warmth of his compliment glow deep inside her. He continued, “Don’t ever shave your mustache.” Poof. It was out. Dr. Kristen Neff is a leading researcher on self-criticism and that’s one of her stories. It made me laugh out loud … Continue reading Self-Compassion > Self-Criticism

You Can(‘t) Make It Up

Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction. Like those times when the sheer coincidence of things that are happening makes you feel like there’s a scriptwriter in the sky pulling your strings. Other times, fiction becomes our reality. This actually happens all of the time. This is what I'm thinking about today. Fiction becomes reality when … Continue reading You Can(‘t) Make It Up

The Drama Triangle (What It Is And How to Use It)

The Karpman drama triangle is one of those mental models that is so intuitive and yet so useful to understand you’ll immediately start seeing it everywhere. In any conflict, there are three roles to be filled, with each role also playing a part in creating the others (a subtle but critical point). I’ll list the … Continue reading The Drama Triangle (What It Is And How to Use It)

Applying Keith Johnstone’s Status Seesaw

A guy slips and falls on a banana peel. Classic. Well, classic-funny if it’s a fancy looking gentleman with a monocle and a top hat, but kind of sad and distressing if it’s a feeble old man with a cane. Why? Status. Every interaction is a status game. Keith Johnstone breaks it down better than … Continue reading Applying Keith Johnstone’s Status Seesaw

Breaking News: Human Nature Still Hasn’t Changed

So you think the world is changing? Well, humans aren’t changing nearly as much as whatever breaking/viral social moment or techno-gadget would have you think. Here’s advertising legend Bill Bernbach on the timelessness of humanity (emphasis added): Human nature hasn’t changed for 1 billion years. It won’t even vary in the next billion years. Only … Continue reading Breaking News: Human Nature Still Hasn’t Changed