Understanding Human Behavior Isn’t A Wrench, It’s Gravity

Understanding human behavior isn’t a wrench, it’s gravity.  Biases exist. Understanding them isn’t another tool in the toolbox. They’re… Newtonian. They're foundational to everything else. Biases and behaviors are the starting point. They’re the operating systems we all run on. We don’t have to fix them, we have to work with them.  h/t Brian Portnoy and … Continue reading Understanding Human Behavior Isn’t A Wrench, It’s Gravity

Podcast Of The Week: Diana Chapman On Trusting Your Instincts

I’ve mentioned Diana Chapman before in these notes here, here, and here. The book she co-authored, The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, had a major impact on me last year. I’m all for hearing her in updated, thoughtful conversations right now.  She recently joined Shane Parrish to talk about the drama triangle, responding to challenges, … Continue reading Podcast Of The Week: Diana Chapman On Trusting Your Instincts

Self-Compassion > Self-Criticism

“You’re a beautiful girl,” the old man from her ancestral country said. She felt the warmth of his compliment glow deep inside her. He continued, “Don’t ever shave your mustache.” Poof. It was out. Dr. Kristen Neff is a leading researcher on self-criticism and that’s one of her stories. It made me laugh out loud … Continue reading Self-Compassion > Self-Criticism

You Can(‘t) Make It Up

Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction. Like those times when the sheer coincidence of things that are happening makes you feel like there’s a scriptwriter in the sky pulling your strings. Other times, fiction becomes our reality. This actually happens all of the time. This is what I'm thinking about today. Fiction becomes reality when … Continue reading You Can(‘t) Make It Up

The Drama Triangle (What It Is And How to Use It)

The Karpman drama triangle is one of those mental models that is so intuitive and yet so useful to understand you’ll immediately start seeing it everywhere. In any conflict, there are three roles to be filled, with each role also playing a part in creating the others (a subtle but critical point). I’ll list the … Continue reading The Drama Triangle (What It Is And How to Use It)

Applying Keith Johnstone’s Status Seesaw

A guy slips and falls on a banana peel. Classic. Well, classic-funny if it’s a fancy looking gentleman with a monocle and a top hat, but kind of sad and distressing if it’s a feeble old man with a cane. Why? Status. Every interaction is a status game. Keith Johnstone breaks it down better than … Continue reading Applying Keith Johnstone’s Status Seesaw