“You’re a beautiful girl,” the old man from her ancestral country said. She felt the warmth of his compliment glow deep inside her. He continued, “Don’t ever shave your mustache.” Poof. It was out. Dr. Kristen Neff is a leading researcher on self-criticism and that’s one of her stories. It made me laugh out loud … Continue reading Self-Compassion > Self-Criticism
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Turn It Up To ELEVEN
As Rory Sutherland would say, it doesn't have to make logical sense, it just has to be psychologically effective. I use this expression all of the time and it's come to my attention that not everyone knows what I'm talking about. So, if I'm sending you this, it's because I created this note for future … Continue reading Turn It Up To ELEVEN
When Self-Awareness Is Just Selfish-Talk
Yeah, I've noticed things are broken and passively ignored them before. Let he who hasn't cast the next stone through the already broken abandoned factory windows. Tasha Eurich is the kingpin of self-awareness research. She recently tweeted this Alan Mulally quote, If you don’t have a vision, a smart strategy, and a detailed plan to … Continue reading When Self-Awareness Is Just Selfish-Talk
I Did It Hemingway
Sometimes you do the work and the work kicks your teeth in. Then, on the good days, you smile a bloodied and toothless smile, lay your head down, and go to sleep so you can do it again tomorrow. The Old Man And The Sea has long been one of my favorite books. When I … Continue reading I Did It Hemingway
They’re Waiting For You To Notice
I love asking people if they're an "everything happens for a reason" person OR a "nothing happens for a reason, but you get to pick your own" person. I'm in the latter camp. I've found peace with the people in the first. Most of the time we're saying the same thing. Here's why: Do work. … Continue reading They’re Waiting For You To Notice
The Pencil’s Mightier Than The Magic Wand
"Get to the point Matt." I'd heard it enough times. From outside my head and inside it too. I was good at collecting what I'd call, "mostly useless information." I was crap at figuring out how to make it useful. I was looking for a magic wand. But that was the wrong piece of wood. … Continue reading The Pencil’s Mightier Than The Magic Wand
Practice Then Perform
“Should I try this?” “Wait, who is going to cover that point?” “Am I closing? You? Does that make sense with our opening?” These are the types of conversations I have with my team all of the time. They’re essential. But… We’re talking about practice man. Do all that stuff, but then, you’ve still got … Continue reading Practice Then Perform
Mark Twain’s Morning Ritual That Will Immediately Make You More Successful
Of all the “this is how brilliant person X starts their day and you should too” advice, this is the only one you’ll ever need: "Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day."~Mark Twain Maybe it won’t make you more successful, but … Continue reading Mark Twain’s Morning Ritual That Will Immediately Make You More Successful
More Cartoonist, Less Cartoon
“I’m trying to be a little bit more the cartoonist and a little bit less the cartoon.” That’s wisdom from my friend Tim. Better to play the game than to be a pawn. Better to be the artist than a part of somebody else’s picture. Better to be the creator of your own experience than … Continue reading More Cartoonist, Less Cartoon
The Future Is Like The Present, Only Longer
Sometimes we get so scared of the future we make our present utterly miserable. Baseball player Dan Quisenberry went full Yogi Berra when he said, “The future is much like the present, only longer.” What we want to accomplish tomorrow needs to start today. Whatever tomorrow brings turns into our next today. Most of (basic) … Continue reading The Future Is Like The Present, Only Longer