“You’re a beautiful girl,” the old man from her ancestral country said. She felt the warmth of his compliment glow deep inside her. He continued, “Don’t ever shave your mustache.” Poof. It was out. Dr. Kristen Neff is a leading researcher on self-criticism and that’s one of her stories. It made me laugh out loud … Continue reading Self-Compassion > Self-Criticism
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Help (I Need Some Continuum)
There's a continuum to helping. If you want to be helpful, it helps to know where you're coming from. On one end is the bad samaritan. They see and don't help. We'll assume that's not what you're looking to do, but we have to acknowledge it exists. Next is the non-judging-but-passively-listening friend. This is good … Continue reading Help (I Need Some Continuum)
The Loyal Soldier
Three decades after WWII was over, Hiroo Onoda was still manning his post. Alone on an island in the Pacific, the news of the end of the war didn’t reach him. Every day he tended to his obligations - maintaining his weapon and guarding his assigned island. He was a loyal soldier. People were aware … Continue reading The Loyal Soldier
Crisis Text Line Data In A Time Of Coronavirus
Nancy Lublin leads a non-profit called Crisis Text Line. They offer text message-based crisis services for people in need. With an army of trained volunteers, they stand (or, more likely, sit with laptops) at the ready to engage with people who just need someone to talk to via text message. While most of their efforts … Continue reading Crisis Text Line Data In A Time Of Coronavirus