Mokokoma Mokhonoana’s explanation of how people can hurt you immediately attached itself to my brain.
You can be hurt, not by what others think of you, but by what you think of what they think or you think they think of you.
Extra-Frankl bonus points, this is all about how our feelings are a choice. If we choose to let our thinking of what others might think – hurt how we feel about ourselves, it will hurt.
And, as you can infer from the quote, there is only one way to stop the hurt – and it’s not from changing their minds.