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Do you know Morgan Ranstrom? He's the founder of Trailhead Planners, a writer at Morgan On Purpose, and someone who somehow keeps alive the increasingly rare dual life of serious financial planner and active musician - the kind of person who doesn't just talk about the intersection of blue collar work and artistry, he lives it.

If not, allow me to introduce you. Morgan embodies something I deeply admire: the refusal to compartmentalize different parts of yourself. He runs a business, writes books, plays music with Stone Arch Rivals, thinks deeply about financial planning and personal purpose, and does it all while being unflinchingly honest about the discomfort involved in showing up authentically in multiple worlds.

I wanted to connect with him because he's figured out how to balance self-promotion with genuine humility, how to build community proactively rather than waiting for it to happen, and how to define success on his own terms rather than letting external metrics make that decision for him.

Our conversation is LIVE now on the Just Press Record and Epsilon Theory YouTube channels (and this Cultish Creative Playlist). Listen and you'll hear Morgan and me discuss everything from small-town roots to parasocial relationships with politicians, from the masks we wear in different contexts to how a 4-year-old can teach us about authentic community building.

In the meantime, I wanted to pull THREE KEY LESSONS from my time with Morgan Ranstrom to share with you (and drop into my Personal Archive).

Read on and you'll find a quote with a lesson and a reflection you can Take to work with you, Bring home with you, and Leave behind with your legacy.

Key Concept: Refusing to self-promote isn't humility - but it can feel like pride in disguise. When Morgan decoupled his work from external metrics (sales, audience size), the paralysis vanished. Now the work happens regardless of reception because the commitment itself is the point.

Personal Archive Note-To-Self: The internal game of practice isn't the external game of performance. The hard part is how much those areas overlap and how to keep them separate enough in our heads and hearts. Morgan seems to have figured this out, and I love not only the distinction between the practice of writing and the performance of publishing, but the value he's choosing to place on practice over performance.

Self-promotion is difficult for so many of us. We don't want to over-talk or over-share about our products or services or art because it feels exhausting and risky - we worry if we start acting that way, we'll lose friends. That fear has been at least a little in my head since I first started playing in bands.

Before you promote, I think you have to make peace with what Morgan is talking about here: The practice is what you did it for. The performance is icing on the cake. You pick where you're going to push, but it's all in the name of getting back into the shed as soon as you can.

Work question for you: What would you do with your creative work if nobody would ever know whether it succeeded or failed?

Key Concept: When the ruler measuring success is "bigger venue, bigger audience," playing a 4 PM set for four people feels like failure. But when the ruler becomes "creating with good people," the entire measurement system shifts. You stop climbing someone else's ladder and start measuring by your actual values.

Personal Archive Note-To-Self: If I had a nickel for every time I told someone, “But, you do realize, you get to pick the ruler you’re measuring this with,” I’d probably have a lot of nickels and - still be struggling to take my own advice.

Putting pride in the process, putting pride in practice, seems to be an emergent theme of my life (and certainly writing) lately. The ruler is just working out the idea and tappity-tap-tapping the keyboard. I want to hit a feeling of flow. I want to hit a feeling of, almost, a natural high - from doing the work and scratching the itch that makes me want to do this in the first place.

The vanity metrics would help. Possibly. If a million people show up to read this or turn out for Morgan’s next gig, I don’t think either of us are complaining. But the truth is we’ll still do the same thing tomorrow and the next day if they come or not. So why bother even trying to lift that big, heavy ruler we originally were carrying around, when all it does is take away from doing the thing we love?

Life question for you: What's the actual ruler you're using to measure your creative or personal work, and who decided that was the right measurement?

Key Concept: "Community" is too abstract. Real grounding comes from knowing who's on your block, in your kids' school, at the grocery store. This proximity is what keeps you tethered to reality when national politics and social media try to pull you into parasocial relationships with people you'll never meet.

Personal Archive Note-To-Self: The best part of Morgan's explanation of community is the humility by which you accept you can't control exactly who your neighbors are, and in that reality (look, never forget that they didn't pick you either) lies the challenge of making a mutual pact that you're in community with each other, and you all know it.

Minneapolis has been a heartbreaker. You can hear it in Morgan's voice, and I got choked up when he started talking about his son getting to know everybody on the block. It's external voices telling internal stories that so often push community apart. Internal voices doing internal work solve so many issues - so much better - and we're not talking about this enough.

You have to try to do this. And by you, I mean me - because I'm saying for a few snowy months I don't know who my new neighbors are yet. It takes effort. And sometimes it takes having a crazy neighbor and admitting you can't do anything about it, which happens too (shoutout to the lady we nicknamed "fruit-salad" who lived across the hall before we moved out of Connecticut). It's a real effort, and sometimes co-existing is all you'll accomplish.

But other times, beyond tolerance is actual understanding and appreciation for the people and places we call home. Humanity needs that reminder.

Legacy question for you: What would your neighborhood look like if you decided to be as proactive about knowing people there as you are about following national politics?

You have a Personal Network and a Personal Archive just waiting for you to build them up stronger. Look at your work, look at your life, and look at your legacy - and then, start small in each category. Today it's one person and one reflection. Tomorrow? Who knows what connections you'll create.

Don't forget to click reply/click here and tell me who you're adding to your network and why! Plus, if you already have your own Personal Archive too, let me know, I'm creating a database.

Want more? Find my Personal Archive on CultishCreative.com, watch me build a better Personal Network on the Cultish Creative YouTube channel, and listen to Just Press Record on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and follow me on social media (LinkedIn and X) - now distributed by Epsilon Theory.

You can also check out my work as Managing Director at Sunpointe, as a host on top investment YouTube channel Excess Returns, and as Senior Editor at Perscient.

ps. AI helped me pull and organize quotes from the transcript, structure the three lessons, and sharpen the Key Concepts. If you're curious about how I use AI while keeping editorial control and my own voice intact, I wrote about my personal rules here: Did AI Do That: Personal Rules